WAYS TO INCREASE BODY CONFIDENCE
Self-confidence is almost always linked to having a happy and fulfilling life. Confident men are often more resilient, less anxious, and less fearful, which no doubt comes from having a stronger sense of identity and being able to silence that self-defeating inner voice that we all struggle with from time to time.
Instead of constantly worrying about what others think about you, building up your own self-confidence is a tried and true method for being able to engage with other people in a more genuine way and also make a positive impact in their lives.
1} Confident men have a vision.
A man of confidence often has a motivation and determination nurtured and developed through an articulate clear vision. This takes skill and time to develop but is a tangible reality for everyone.
You might be asking yourself how do I get a vision for my life? This is a difficult question to answer as every person has a different trajectory for their life.
Here are some steps you can take to find your vision:
- Write down what you want for your future.
- Think about old dreams and goals and determine if they need to be let go in order to make room for bigger and better dreams.
- Start taking small steps towards your vision/dream. This will allow you to see if it is realistic and worth fighting for.
- Be okay with changing what your vision is. This does not mean making it simpler, no, this just means letting it grow and develop just like you have as a human.
- Do not be ashamed of what you want.
- Keep your dreams/goals in front of you, weekly and daily.
2} Confident men know themselves.
Have you ever be halfway through a project and a colleague or co-worker walks up and questions what you are doing and why you are doing it that way. At that moment you will find out if you are confident or not.
If you know, yourself and the skills you possess this type of questioning will not destabilize you, but if you are insecure, you may react with anger or frustration. This is a sign that you have room to grow in self-confidence and knowing yourself.
3} Confident men take action.
The difference between a confident and insecure man can be as simple as one takes action and the other doesn't. They may both experience the same feelings of fear, apprehension, or anxiety. Yet, the confident man does not let that hold him back. Whereas the insecure man does.
Confident men take action on a daily basis. This allows them to put the repetitions in to learn that fear, anxiety, and the unknown are all normal feelings that every human experiences and is confronted by. Strengthening the muscle of action empowers you to push through and keep moving forward.
4} Confident men have failed.
If you have ever tried to learn anything new, heck if you have tried to learn how to ride a bike, quickly you will realize that in order to attain your goal you will need to be okay with failure. This practical truth is so potent and impactful. If you can stomach this and put it into practice, you will inevitably become a more confident man.
Men who are able to accept the fact that they will fail can break the power of shame that holds so many humans back from ever trying or attempting to attain the desired goal. When you can embrace failure as proof of action, you will become a more confident man.
5} Confident men take care of themselves.
Have you ever met a confident man that had lousy hygiene, was grossly unhealthy, and just possessed a mountain of self-hatred? I doubt it...
A breeding ground for confidence in your life comes from a place of self-care. Confident men take care of themselves because they have self-value. This perpetuates and stimulates self-confidence and growth. On the front end starting this snowball effect may seem daunting but do not let that stop you. Here are a few practical ways you can start taking care of yourself today.
- Work on personal hygiene. Brush your teeth, take a shower, clip your fingernails, and/or get your hair cut.
- Eat healthier food. Start researching what this would look like and find out why it is crucial.
- Pursue passions or hobbies that make you happy.
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If you are in a toxic environment at work or where you live, start to make plans on how to get out.
6} Confident men push themselves.
Have you ever met an athlete or businessman who has taken an insane risk that just baffles you? It is as though their self-confidence is out of this world! Well, that type of confidence in men comes from the constant pursuit and action of pushing one's self to new limits.
They did not just wake up one day being able to do that. NO! It was through the constant practice of pushing one's self to new limits. The acceptance of discomfort as a reality, not an inhibitor.
So, you might be asking how can you practically start pushing yourself to new limits? Well, you are in luck I am gonna give you a few pointers.
- When you feel uncomfortable, don't run away finish what you were doing.
- Do the difficult task first.
- Face one fear a week. Big or small facing a fear will push you to new limits. It could be asking a girl out or going skydiving.
- Ask yourself why you limit yourself. Dive deep and look into how much you are holding yourself back.
- Monitor where you have come from. This will encourage you that growth is possible. For example say you start running three times a week. When you start, you probably will suck, but after a few months, things will be different. If you do not know where you came from it will be hard to keep pushing.
7} Confident men think positive.
A confident man is able to think and focus on the positive. This doesn't mean he ignores or is ignorant of the negative realities that exist. He is just able to decipher that which is positive and negative and focuses in on that which is beneficial to his mental health.
Focusing in on and obsessing with the negative realities that exist helps no one. Confident men can see the positive, hone in on it, and allow it to empower them to make bold decisive decisions.
8} Confident men are generous.
A confident man knows that he has something to offer and is aware of when to give it. Sure, not all confident men are generous, but it is an attribute of some confident men.
Think about it this way, a man who is not confident in his ability to produce income or take care of himself will not believe he has anything to give.
Small acts like this will help you build self-confidence and strengthen your muscle of generosity. Generous people leave a lasting impact on society and others lives. This is a great attribute to possess as a human being.
9} Confident men are open to learning.
A man who is open to learning is a man who is confident in himself. Why? Because in order to learn you need sobriety to the reality that you don't know everything. Thus being able to admit when you are wrong and when you do not know something.
Men who can say, "I don't know, will you explain this to me?" Display an aspect of confidence that can be undervalued. Sure some confident men also know that even though they do not know something they know how to figure it out. I just want to highlight and show you that being able to say you don't know something, and take the time to learn about it shows confidence.
10} Confident men don't need to be heard all the time.
Have you ever been at a social gathering, or a family event and over in the living room there is an older man just chilling, entirely content with just sitting in silence as the chaos of the social gathering ensues around him. He does not have a need to be noticed or heard.
Often times the person who is silent until the very moment when they need to speak is listened to with much higher regard than the blabbering know-it-all co-worker. Why is that? Because the composed man who knows when to and not to talk is a man of confidence, the none stop talker can in situations just be an insecure man who doesn't know how to handle silence or not being heard.
11} Confident men are perseverant.
A man of great impact is a man who is perseverant. In the I-want-it-now western culture, many of us are immersed in; perseverance has become an undervalued commodity. There are many who have financially benefited merely because they just chose not to give up. Many of the men that have impacted and inspired me have possessed the golden quality of perseverance.
This attribute is grown and developed through to main factors.
- Having an articulated vision for what they want in life.
- The hunger to see the vision fulfilled.
Finding that vision and hunger can be difficult but the more you fight for it, the more perseverant and devoted you will become.
12} Confident men ask questions.
How does asking questions show confidence? Because if you ask questions, you are showing that you do not have a need to be heard and you are open to learning. It also shows interest and engagement. You are present in that moment rather than consumed by what is going on in your headspace. The ability to ask good questions presents you as a confident individual. This is a subtle confidence, and most don't overtly pick up on it, but it is a contributing factor to confidence.
So, the next time you feel yourself wanting to disengage from a conversation or want to systematically destroy some naive youngling in a heated argument force yourself to ask a question instead.
13} Confident men are not people pleasers.
There is a difference between a man takes care of those whom he loves and those whom he wants to control. A people pleaser is out to control those around him, a man who has empathy is out to love those around him.
A man of confidence is consumed with empathy. He knows when there is someone in need around him and he takes action. He is okay with if everyone does not like him, or think he is the best thing since sliced bread.
14} Confident men are not agreeable.
A confident man knows when to stand his ground. This means at some points in life that he has to say no, or not go with the crowd. This is built on the last point of not being a people pleaser. A confident man is a man of conviction and sticks to it. Other perceive this as confidence and strength.
it is still important to have respect for other human beings while practicing being disagreeable. There will be times when you go too far, and you will need to practice self-awareness during this process, but do not let this hold you back
15} Confident men know how to listen.
A man who is confident in himself has learned how to listen intently to those speaking. He is not insecure about the need to be heard. No, he listens intently, asks questions, and engages in conversation.
He has bold engaging eye contact, and inviting body language. He is able to make any other human feel heard and important. When you are secure in yourself listening comes naturally because the spotlight does not always need to be on you.
